A Spiritual Valentines Day
Whether you’re single or coupled, Valentines Day often brings up emotional issues. This day often means spending romantic time with a special partner, feeling loved and valued.
All too often this holiday is fraught with disappointment and sadness. Single people are often frustrated and complain about the lack of a partner to spend it with. I often hear my single clients express annoyance with what feels like a ‘hallmark holiday’–a holiday designed to sell cards, candy, flowers and to make singles generally feel lonely. Couples often have expectations for each other and get disappointed. Some couples take out the stress of the holiday arguing. Those recently out of a relationship may feel free, and the recently broken up with are usually distraught about their ability to love again.
Rarely do I hear in my practice about a wonderful Valentine’s day. So I have started thinking about this holiday from a spiritual perspective. Valentine’s day could be a day to focus on one own self. I’m not suggesting you buy yourself candy and flowers, or ‘love yourself so someone else will’. I am suggesting that you take the day to reflect on how you treat yourself, and how you think about yourself. Are you good to you. Do you take care of yourself or put others needs above your own. Do you think positively about
yourself, which means to acknowledge your good characteristics, forgive and yet still hold in awareness to change your faults. If the answer is no, then I suggest Valentine’s day becomes less of a focus on another person loving you, and more of a day for self-care and self reflection on how you treat yourself.
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